Happy Monday! Hope you all are doing lovely and feeling great! We're back with another Dark-Skinned Girls Rock Post! Today we're featuring the gorgeous Tammie of My Aura: Where My Life and My Style Collide!
Everybody meet Tammie! She's a thirty-something Mental Health Professional from Texas. She is also currently in graduate school pursuing a double degree in Mental Health & Addiction’s Counseling.
Describe yourself in 3 words.
If I had to describe myself in three words I would have to say I’m: genuine, introspective, and multi-faceted!
Tell us about your personal style.
My personal style is evolving! I go for silhouettes which flatter my curvaceous shape and are sophisticated, chic and current. I mostly dress for work and the dress-code is casual to business/casual. Thus I find that my work style bleeds into my personal life and vice versa. I am drawn to COLOR, patterns and anything that creates visual interest! You’ll see me in neutrals, but not typically as a focal color. I tend to use metallics like gold, silver or pewter to tie things together in a neat package. All in all, I love clothes and I enjoy trying new things!!!!
Who are your style icons?
My style inspiration comes from real women! I LOVE reading blogs to get ideas! But even before then I would look to others for ideas, putting my own spin on them of course!
Have you ever struggled with self-identity issues because of your complexion? If so what are some things you did to accept yourself for who you are and love yourself?
I recall when I was younger I was envious of my sister. I was an ‘80’s baby but experienced most of my childhood and pre-teens in the ‘90’s. My sister represented the standard of black beauty back then, long hair and light skin. She got so much attention and seemingly special treatment for her looks. I felt so left out and questioned why I had to be so dark…why my hair wasn’t as long as my sister’s. It was a long and sometimes painful process. But I learned people only recognize your flaws, real or perceived, if you point them out. I don’t really know when the change in my perspective came, it just did with time. I think what helped is surrounding myself around people who accepted me as I was. With time and a lot of work, my insecurities slowly became obsolete.
Do you have any advice for other dark-skinned women that are struggling with accepting themselves because of the color of their skin?
My advice about insecurities in general is to work on what is inside. Only then can you project what you want people to see on the outside. You cannot change people’s attitudes about standards of beauty, but you can change yours through self-acceptance. People only see what you point out!
What do you like most about being dark-skinned?
I know it sounds cliché, but what I love most about my skin-tone is the all-access pass it gives me to color. In the summer I am darker. So neons, pastels and light neutrals pop out against my skin! In the winter I am a lighter shade of brown. So black, burgundy and even olive green complements my skin well! I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Thank you Tammie for participating in the series and sharing your story with us! You are so cute and I love how your confidence oozes through your pictures!! Love how you said "You cannot change people’s attitudes about standards of beauty, but you can change yours through self-acceptance." If you work on yourself enough, you will get to the point where people's opinions don't really phase you! #LoveYourself! Don't forget to check out Tammie's blog, My Aura: Where My Life and My Style Collide and "like" her blog's Facebook page.
My dark-skinned ladies, if you have a story that you feel others can benefit from, please don't hesitate to participate in this series. This series is open to all! You don't have to be a blogger, vlogger, etc. to participate. Click here for more info about the series, or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you are interested in participating in the series.
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